Things that are an important part of keeping myself happy: alone time, friend time, “group” date time, and one-on-one time with my boyfriend. Each of these are an important part of my life and I try to make each one a priority each week.
Naturally, many of my evenings are spent with Nick, making dinner, watching tv, and simply being in the same room together. It is important to us that we also make time to do things together. Not just dinner and television type things, but experiences that we don’t take part in every day.
We’ve dedicated ourselves to one “date night” [or "date day"] a week. Early in the week we discuss our plans, and come up with ideas for our date. We started throwing ideas back and forth a few weeks ago, and suddenly a list was born. Not too long afterwards, these date night jars were born, too.
We decided to have two jars. At first I suggested having a jar for free dates and a jar for dates which cost money. Then Nick persuaded me to have one jar for dates that cost less that $2 and one jar that costs more than $2, because we can always scrounge up eight quarters
We each shared some suggestions on the list, then I wrote them on paper, folded small, and added to the appropriate jar. I’ve kept a notebook handy nearby, too, for when more ideas cross our minds. Some of the date night ideas are simple, and others are more detailed. Some are go-out-and-do dates, and some are stay-in-and-relax dates. Some are classic favorites [dinner and a movie is still fun, just not fun every week!] and others are new places/sites neither of us has visited. I’d be more than willing to share a list on THS if anyone is interested.
Of course, we won’t need to use the jars every week – for example, this week we are going to see The Muppets!- but it will certainly come in handy when we are looking for a fresh idea on spending some time together. Especially since many of our conversations end up looking a little like this:
H: What do you think?
N: It’s up to you.
H: Well, my decision is that it’s now up to you.
And so on and so forth.
After putting the jars together, I decided to give them a small touch of creative, and added some handwritten paper tags tied with yarn. BONUS! The paper decorations on the jars match this frame I have in my living room perfectly, so I’m thinking a new photo of Nicholas and I may need to be added to it soon! ]
Do you have any fresh ideas for date nights? What is your favorite date activity of all times? Any suggestions we can add to our jars?